Print

Please login or register.
1 Hour 1 Day 1 Week 1 Month Forever
Login with username, password and session length

[A²]

And now they're arguing over who's better, Edward or Jacob.

[Lady Duke]

And today my aunt gets here, the smoking, drinking, narcissistic, racist, prejudicial aunt who, when my mother had cancer, called her up and told her to just "Get over it" after hearing how badly she was taking it.

Several of my family members were like that to my mom during and after her battle with cancer.  My uncle and aunt were telling people outside the family that it wasn't a big deal despite my mom nearly dying from stage III fucking ovarian cancer, and she got memory problems from the chemo that a lot of the family just conveniently ignores whenever they want to yell at her for not remembering anything.

[Brentai]

Cancer is a hard thing to acknowledge in your life.

Some people are not capable of it.

I cannot condemn them.

[Classic]

I'm so used to seeing people who have cancer take it as a sign to try and bow out with a bit of grace that the reality of it is shocking. Then again, the people I knew were all 75-80+, and not much in the habit of talking to me about their emotions an innermost fears.
Someone in the "family" is going through chemo right now. I'm pretty sure they're far from death's door, but each session obviously takes a lot out of them.

Also I agree with R2. That he desperately needs money to keep his mediocre quality of life together seems somehow less dramatic than Lyrai's pile. It could be because I could actually help R2 in a meaningful way also makes it and me feel less awful. Or at least I would feel less awful if I weren't already living on charity.

[R^2]

It wouldn't help with the knee or the problems I'd rather not discuss on a public forum but $2500 would turn mylife mostly around, probably with change to spare. That seems trivial compared to a family coping with two members having life-altering disease. (Note: I am not asking anyone for $2500 it's just a sum that seems like it would cover everything that needs my urgent attention.)

[A²]

It would not have bothered me nearly as much if she didn't do it days after my mother found out she had it.

Like if this was like, 5, 6 years down the road? And had gotten the whole family up in arms for years over it? Then yes, I could begin to see that line of thought

But Day fucking 3 of finding out your life is fucking changing, for the worse, and will never, ever be the same is never the time to tell someone to get over it.

R^2s seemed a lot more horrifying to me because part of me thinks I'm just overdoing shit and not handling it well. We need to come up with something marketable then solicit paypal donations for R2.

[Stush]

Kitties are trying to steal my spaghetti and I have the sniffles.

[jsnlxndrlv]

Our washing machine broke! I think the gasket connecting the pump to the drain must have sprung a leak, because as soon as the main wash cycle ends, water starts trickling across the floor.

[Envy]

My grandmother fell and broke her hip last night. She is getting on in years and they may have to do surgery.

[Mongrel]

And now they're arguing over who's better, Edward or Jacob.

At first I thought you were saying that your relatives were arguing about which sibling was better. In a way, realization of the truth was far more horrifying.

[R^2]

Went to bed around 4:00, woke up every 20-40 minutes afterward for some reason or another. The exception is the event I programmed to interrupt my sleep, as my alarm didn't go off. Even if I wasn't going in early to appeal the boot on my van with security, it'd be a ten-hour schoolday. I have a large, painful blister on the sole of my foot and still have to stand up all day and hike to/from train stations.

[Joxam]

Man. Where do you live? Sounds like you need some emergency alcohol and a friend. I can totally be anywhere in the use in like 30 hours or less. :D Only partially kidding.

[R^2]

I was offered a Watchtower on the way into the train station. I replied with "Ma'am, if there's a divine force in my life, it is overtly hostile."

[Doom]

Theory: As soon as an individual begins to feel financially secure, there is a 90% chance something vital in his car will break.

Coolant leak! I was barely able to get a haircut I've needed for two weeks and coast + frequent stops my way home while the engine heat tried to bounce to the top of the meter!

Also I guess I can't buy new shoes(while working 32 hours a week outside with widening holes at the heels from all the walking) or go try to organize my continuing education(because I literally can't do anything for 4 days of the week because everybody closes by 5.) At least I got the haircut so the 100 degrees feels like 95... if I even have transportation to reach my job with! Whoop Whoop!

[Ocksi]

Carry a gallon of water in automobile.  It's the summer, so you don't need antifreeze.  Just drop the water in every time you're leaving somewhere, find a spigot, fill it up, and be on your way.  It's not a long-term fix, but it'll get you from a to b.

[Classic]

I've heard that it can take you all the way to j or k with enough repetitions, but not much farther. Certainly not to z. GL

[Ted Belmont]

This is nowhere near as bad as R^2, Mars, or Doom's problems, but one of my crabs is really sick, and I have no idea what to do. He's really pale, lethargic, and for the past few weeks has been hanging half out of his shell. A few days ago, I found him completely out of his shell, and he's been like that since. He still moves around, but he won't go back into his shell, or into any of the other ones I have in the tank. All five of my other crabs are doing just fine, so I don't think it's contagious, but it's still worrisome.

[Joxam]

you have a lot of dirt in the bottom right? And you keep plants in the tank with plastic over the top for moisture and oxygen, right? They have to be kept humid, warm, breathing and with enough soil to molt in.

[Ted Belmont]

Of course! And I have a thermometer/humidity gauge, so I know that's fine. I give them fresh food, fresh and salt water, stuff for calcium and plenty of stuff to climb on. Like I said, he's the only one acting this way, the others are active, healthy, and have great color.

[SCD]

Envy:  I am so sorry to hear about the hip.  Have a weird, but reliable friend whose currently a nurse.  Very wise guy whose done it all:  aircraft pilot, teacher, army officer, journalist and a few others.  If he was your friend, he'd bring over a bottle of jack, get shitfaced, break out a guitar after breaking urban ordinance on backyard fires and sing old songs, then would warn you to steel up:  Prospects for broken hips in elderly are not good due to likelihood of post-op infection.  I still have your address.  But despite my good intention, I can't do booze over international borders, otherwise I'd pass you my reserve twixer, even if it is half-evaporated. 


Lyrai:  Please excuse me if you've heard this one before, but when I was once thrown into a toxic workplace for too long with no viable alternative for employment.  The place was so socially unsatisfying, isolated and broken that it along with my inability at the time to complete education drove me to the point of swimming out to sea to the point of no return one winter's night.  Told this one and the details to someone I'm pretty close with, and she told me explicitly that the work situation "is not my fault".  Not the situation of how I got there, but the overall toxicity of the environment and that there was nothing I could do, so I should stop worrying excessively. 

Lyrai, this situation that you describe with the family, and especially the teacher's situation:  None of it is your fault.  The toxicity of your Father's mother, or your aunt isn't.  The fact that this atrocity happened to your math teacher's friend's daughter is surreal and all the more scary, but it is out of your realm.  While I think I still have your address, I can offer you just as meagre offerings as Envy with possible exception of math assistance.

I wish you both all the best.  I've too-recently found out how little we are without our bloodlines, for better or worse.

PS Doom:  What model is your vehicle?