It's complicated...
THE GIST OF IT:
A FEW DAYS AGO:
her: I broke up with my boyfriend.
me: good; he was sort of an asshole.
her: hey, how about you move in with me?
me: well, I would have to think about it. I do really like you though.
her: like you have a crush on me?
me: yeah.
her: argh fuck you I just want a good friend instead of people crushing on me all the time.
me: that's okay. I'm kind of sad, but I like being your best friend and I don't want to ruin that. Besides, you should probably wait until you've recovered before you try any new relationships.
her: I don't want to be in a relationship. So are you going to move in then? I've been planning it for a long time.
me: wait, hang on. That would be incredibly awkward, for one. And more to the point I just got moved into a place where I'm finally comfortable. Your apartment is more expensive, I've never even seen it, and I couldn't get to work without paying for a cab. I know you're in a bad place right now, but don't you think you're being kind of inconsiderate?
her: no I'm not!
TODAY:
me: so are you feeling better?
her: I think so. Also, I think I'm going to drop out of college and move back to my old town. I can take odd jobs shoveling driveways and stuff and I'll try to get back together with one of my exes because I never got over him. I've been planning this for a while.
me: that sounds an awful lot like you're just taking a bad attitude and trying to back out of your life.
her: fuck you.
I mean, not only did I get her upset with me, but I'm kind of pissed at her. For one thing, she gave her jerk ex a chance (and wants to give her other jerk ex a chance), but won't give me a chance even though we're a lot more compatible and I've been under the impression that she's been coming on to me anyway.
On a more dickish note, it's apparently been her plan for months now to have me move in with her, then move out the next month, stiffing me with a place I don't want and can't afford.