Topic: Shit Days (Read 227918 times)

Brentai · « **Reply #2220 on:** June 16, 2011, 08:53:12 PM »

Today I found out that I won't be moving into my new place when I thought I'd be because the HOA fucked up some of their own paperwork, and that my company slashed the fuck out of my bonus and raise because it took so long to move me out of a contract position. Less a Shit Day than a Letdown Day but we don't have a topic for that.

Had to cancel a credit card too, I guess that counts?

NexAdruin · « **Reply #2221 on:** June 16, 2011, 11:35:06 PM »

My first girlfriend just left me for another guy. All I can think about is all the times we got coffee together and how inseparable we were, and how that feeling is now gone. I guess it's just part of growing up, but god damn it hurts.

Classic · « **Reply #2222 on:** June 16, 2011, 11:43:54 PM »

I am glad I am about 7 years older than you and no longer have to deal with that kind of juvenile crap.

I'm sad that my 6th steady girlfriend left me for another guy. All i can think about is all the times we got drunk together and how incorrigible we were, and how that feeling never quite changes.

Well, unless you turn into an awful person who just does not give two shits, as I have been described in my worser moments.

EDIT:

In the interest of not being entirely a downer here is an upshot! Although the pain of a relationship failing is generally proportionate to how much you value that relationship as you gain experience and a better sense-of-self, it not only becomes easier to ascertain which relationships are "going somewhere" above and beyond a tryst (letting all(?) parties out with a lot less hurt and a bit more mature understanding), you also have the opportunity to become better at managing and expelling grief.

Of course, that last part depends on other factors. I know a guy who expelled grief orally and violently over the course of about a week of drinking in basically the same way he did a 20 months ago, but it'd be petty for me of all people to begrudge someone unhealthy habits.

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Although those habits may have a fair bit to do with a group of... I guess they might count as "bros"? he hangs out with?

NexAdruin · « **Reply #2223 on:** June 17, 2011, 12:06:36 AM »

The main problem is that, not only am I an inexperienced kid out of high school, but I'm one without a group of friends. Various psychological issues have kept me from making any kind of support group, so when something Bad happens I am stuck alone in my room wishing there were people that gave a fuck.

My girlfriend, of course, gave a fuck. And she was the only one that did. And now she's gone. Part of my goals for the relationship was to take the time to grow and mature and whatever, since I had her support to count on. And then during this growth and maturation period I could make friends. I was actually doing a pretty good job, too! But I was not ready for this, and right now I don't know if I can continue to grow as I was or if I'm going to fall apart (falling apart seems pretty likely).

I'd love to drink my problems away, and I've been eyeing the liquor cabinet all day, but I know that I can't do that. The only thing I've got going for me is a little bit of intelligence that I don't want to drink away. Besides, I'd eventually run out of liquor and then nothing will have changed except my dad will be pissed at me for not leaving any. Not to mention I'm underage and everything.

Classic · « **Reply #2224 on:** June 17, 2011, 12:16:38 AM »

Yeah. I'm not going to pry, but having friends helps the healing process a lot. Well, at least if they're not assholes.

I also don't recommend "drinking problems away" like most recreational drugs, alcohol builds on brain chemistry as-is. i.e., If your evening itinerary includes being alone in your room and crying, alcohol is just going to make that more nauseating.

R^2 · « **Reply #2225 on:** June 17, 2011, 05:58:53 AM »

Very little is worse than the feeling of hurt and loss when you get dumped. (And this is me talking.)

Very little helps except the passage of time.

Mongrel · « **Reply #2226 on:** June 17, 2011, 08:39:02 AM »

Well, the bike ate another battery (OM NOM NOM MOAR CANDY) and my father-in-law (who is 76) was ripped off by UPS so they tagged COD brokerage fees on a regular parcel.

There goes another $150 into thin air.

It's not really that shitty at the end of the day (if this thread doesn't provide perspective, nothing will), but I just hate flushing money that is badly needed and gets me absolutely nothing.

R^2 · « **Reply #2227 on:** June 17, 2011, 08:43:19 AM »

The error message on my phone indicates either it's been cut off for not paying the bill, or the hardware has finally gone completely tits-up. Either one could be the case!

The air mattress I've been sleeping on since I got here is leaking -- hey turns out those things aren't intended for long-term daily use! -- so I slept on a box springs with a quilt on it last night. I wouldn't really recommend it to anyone, especially anyone with joint problems.

In related news, my already-bad knee has been hurting pretty much constantly. Between favoring the bad knee for a week and last night's sleep, now my other knee and both ankles are giving my gyp too.

NexAdruin · « **Reply #2228 on:** June 18, 2011, 11:10:41 PM »

Spent 3 days in bed, unable to move.

The suicide prevention hotline just hung up on me after telling me in as condescending a voice as humanly possible that I was being a whiny little kid.

Awesome.

Classic · « **Reply #2229 on:** June 19, 2011, 12:11:13 AM »

Do your best to get up and move. Just get some sun and walk someplace familiar for a while. That usually helps me.

NexAdruin · « **Reply #2230 on:** June 21, 2011, 03:20:02 AM »

Well I spent 5 days in my room (swallowing sleeping pills like candy) without eating or moving, except for a trip to a friend's house to see him before he left the state forever.

I'm still not hungry, but I can walk around and leave my room. I went to get some starbucks and found that coffee is really fucking delicious even without someone to drink it with. It's also rather expensive when you lack an income.

Today I am going to do yardwork with my mother and then we're going to go see Pirates of the Caribbean, which I was supposed to go see with my ex but that isn't going to happen lol.

Thanks for all the support, guys. I'm finally starting to see the end of this goddamn tunnel.

Büge · « **Reply #2231 on:** June 21, 2011, 07:56:03 AM »

I hope you'll be ok.

Lady Duke · « **Reply #2232 on:** June 24, 2011, 03:07:00 PM »

I found a couple lumps on our dog, Bear's, throat day before yesterday and we feared the worst, especially considering the lumps were not there a week earlier, and he's been coughing badly all week. He's only 6 1/2 but berners are prone to cancers at about that age, so my mom took him to the animal hospital. The vet ran some tests, and she said it isn't his thyroid (which really would have been the best case scenario), so now Bear is headed in for a biopsy on tuesday. If he does have cancer, it is malignant and there's nothing we can do at this point because apparently it's a horribly aggressive cancer that will probably kill him within days, maybe a couple weeks. I really keep hoping that it's going to turn up nothing and he'll be okay, but realistically, it probably is cancer. If his biopsy comes back saying it's cancer, we'll be putting him down next week I think. It really really sucks.

Classic · « **Reply #2233 on:** June 24, 2011, 05:16:25 PM »

I like dogs and I am sorry for and sympathetic to your plight.

Büge · « **Reply #2234 on:** June 24, 2011, 05:52:47 PM »

You have my sympathies, LD.

McDohl · « **Reply #2235 on:** June 25, 2011, 08:48:18 AM »

*hugs Duke* Same thing happened to my puppy. :(

Classic · « **Reply #2236 on:** June 25, 2011, 09:41:34 PM »

New Experience!!! I've either broken or severely sprained a toe. It's right at the base of the "digit" so it's close to essential for the task of not walking like a gigantic retard. It also hurts in an unusually painful way when used in any kind of locomotion.

It's also persisting in swelling and turning all kinds of neat bruise-y colors. So that's neat!

The problem here, is that the constant nagging pain has spawned a headache. An ailment awarding less than zero sympathy.

R^2 · « **Reply #2237 on:** June 26, 2011, 06:44:33 AM »

Wow. Phone company says I owe 'em $405.

That's kind of a lot.

R^2 · « **Reply #2238 on:** June 27, 2011, 07:18:42 AM »

Quote from: R^2 on June 24, 2011, 07:51:20 PM

(... my personal finances are still triple-digits in the red...)

Just got my van diagnosed. Quadruple-digits.

Brentai · « **Reply #2239 on:** June 27, 2011, 08:39:25 PM »

Welp, my regular internet just turned off. Tomorrow they're going to clear out the furniture, and the next day is when it'll get taken off the lot. I still have at least 5-9 days until I can move into my new digs, assuming something else doesn't get fucked up.

Not the first person you all expected to be posting here about being homeless, was I?

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