Guild, your postings in this thread make me feel like I'm trying to see what's going on in this room by looking through a pinhole, and the people are speaking a foreign language.
Then don't read it.
Then you should learn or invent a language that I don't understand and insist in posting in that from now on.
There. Now we've both made statements about our feelings that the other person is powerless to affect, and we've both given the other person advice that is pointless and dismissive. I feel like we've had a good exchange.
Like, in the full context of a healthy relationship, yes, there's room for you to acknowledge that you wouldn't have tolerated certain behaviors from somebody else. However, in the abstract, that phrase presented to somebody who's transgressed but before they've apologized for the transgression strikes me as a large commitment of emotional capital toward the goal of extracting concessions, which is edging into into territory that may belong to the sovereign state of Manipulative Maneuvers, though it also may not. Either way, the size of the commitment concerns me as well.
What commitment? She's still halfway in another relationship. I told her about my past relationships and we're separately ... ruminating on how things are going. I remember once when she was talking on the phone to her ex, he said words to the effect of, if you don't do this, i'll hang up and i remember thinking how immature it is to manipulate others with words like that, so i decided to draw that picture to illustrate the difference between my approach (few chances) and her ex's (drama to keep her interested). i didn't show her the picture, it was just my own anger over ... situations I suppose.
I was referring to
your commitment of emotional capital when you said you were
very disappointed, et cetera. I consider it a commitment because it's not something you can take back; like it or not, your history of interactions with this girl are indelibly connected to the idea that this issue (whatever it originally was) is very important to you. That's neither good nor bad, inherently! The reason I worry is that you guys aren't even in the relationship, yet, and you're already setting up a "Warning: Emotional Mine Buried Here" sign, and every time
I've had a relationship that started that way, the results were catastrophic. However: correlation doesn't imply causation! You guys could wind up being fine. I hope so. When I was on a path that looked similar, though, I didn't like where I wound up, and I hope you don't encounter the same pitfalls I did.
Uh... yeah i'll just not tell you guys anything else then. My art is already pretty destructive. It keeps me balanced. I did draw her picture with a red marker :) god she's so smart and hot
I guess I should add: I was in no way commenting on the picture, because (again)
I didn't see the picture.
any time a group with limited information jumps to a conclusion there is almost always regret
Please don't invite us to play poker and then bitch about the kinds of people who enjoy poker.
I do want to mention, despite my tone in this and other threads, I'll always love you, Guild. Even if you are a fucking weretiger.
